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Abigail & Dysfunctional Families – 2

Posted on November 25, 2011

Our focus on dysfunction in families as exemplified in King David’s family has brought us to Abigail. In the last blog we started describing her life situation with Nabal when she discovered Nabal and rudely offended David and that David and his men were on their way to kill Nabal for revenge. As soon as she found out what Nabal had done, Abigail jumped into action, not even telling Nabal what she was doing. She was obviously used to functioning without his help. Feeling isolated and alone is common among codependents. Resentment and anger build but aren’t shown. Instead the anger is turned inward to cause depression or other forms of dysfunction. That adds to the drain on their emotional battery and before long they are burnt out and emotionally exhausted. Their love tank is always empty and when their emotional battery goes dead they are in poor shape. One … Continue reading →

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Abigail and Dysfunctional Families – 1

Posted on November 23, 2011

(Wednesday, Nov. 23, 2011)  God created the family to, among other things, provide love and security for children. Children need to feel unconditionally loved and totally secure to mature emotionally into healthy adults. When they don’t feel that from their parents, they must substitute or compensate in some way. They can’t really mature past that until they find unconditional acceptance. Many never find it, and that’s why so many turn to addictive or compulsive behaviors. They are trying to meet a legitimate need, but it will never be met by illegitimate means. I personally used sports in high school and then good grades in college to impress others. I assumed no one would like me for me so I hid the real me and tried to earn the admiration of others by what I did. It sort-of worked for awhile, but never really touched the deep inner needs I had. … Continue reading →

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